rape- that’s one of those crime things, right?

Wouldn’t it be great to live in a world where rape was illegal?  oh wait… technically it is. But effectively it is permissible in every culture I’ve lived in.  (USA and UK).    I’d like to believe, as my father does, that people are held responsible for their actions.

 My father overheard me talking to my mother about the time a guy grabbed my ass.  He was upset.  “that’s illegal, that’s assault! we have laws about that sort of thing, at least in America!”  (I was in the UK at the time).  But where is this America that he lives in?  None of the kids that beat him up in elementary school for having a funny name were charged with assault.  Since when do we care about bullies?  And since when do we care about sexual harassment?  Yeah I was pissed off about it.  And Yes, I had to avoid him and stop participating in clubs I enjoyed as I wanted to avoid the guy.  And yes it’s wrong that it had to happen that way, when HE was the perpetrator. 

 But it was such an insignificant issue compared to the sexual crimes committed on a regular basis that have no repercussions for the perpetrator. 

I heard once that 1 in 6 women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime ( and no, ass grabbing isn’t included in that ).  where are the trials to match?  where are these rapists?  mostly walking free. 

 Women are taught to stay silent.  If they speak up they are punished.  Because in this culture if you say you were raped, it is most likely your fault for being slutty.  In this culture if you have ever said yes to sex in any context, it is assumed you gave consent in all others.  (anyone ever hear of the virgin/slut dichotemy?)

we live in a culture where women are denied rape kits. And victims are not allowed to use the word rape in court. And then when she counter-sued the suit was thrown out.

 There is still debate over whether legally a husband is raping his wife if he forces sexual intercourse on her.

What I’ve highlighted is only the tip of the iceburg. grrrrrrrr. Oh and by the way, rape is also apparently funny if it happens to guys. (how many movies do you see the bad guy go to prison and everyone is delighted he’s getting it up the ass? it’s not cool. or in Sorority boys (yes I watched it) a guy date rapes someone, but it’s ok because he thought it was girl, but it was actually a guy.. so it’s hilarious instead of horrible.) Just no… do you hear me? It’s not ok.

and people wonder if feminism is still relevent in this day and age. i have friends who don’t believe in the patriarchy and/or don’t think a rape culture exists.

I wish I lived in that place too.  Instead I live where when she finally comes forward her face is in tears, begging me not to tell anyone because she is just so ashamed.  She wouldn’t tell me who did it.  I will never forget who she looked when she said, “I thought he was my friend.. why would he do this to me?”  But she was silent.  She didn’t need to wait for an external force to blame her, living in this country in a big city on the west coast, she still knew “it was her fault”.  She was a woman after all. 

update on Planned Parenthood Aurora

In reference to my earlier post
Firstly there is up to date info at
 http://ppaurora.blogspot.com/

There was a post this morning.  It basically said, yes they can legally throw the people off their property:

that the only way we can remove the protesters is to get Safeway/Dominick’s to send a letter to the city telling them they don’t want the protesters on their private property.

So in calling in we should Request they write a letter the the city.

My personal Addendum is that when complaining, inform them that the objectional behavior is the intimidation tactics. These protesters are Taking people’s pictures and wrtiting down their liscense plate numbers. they Are harrassing patients. Yes this is technically legal, but it is unkind, and hurtful. Even if those you speak call themselves “pro-life” it is important to note that Planned Parenthood does more than “just abortions” they offer mamograms, and pap smears and information. What could be more pro-life than ensuring that women of all economic backgrounds have access to healthcare?

Please call both the local Store and Corporate.

Dominick’s store: 630-236-0683

National Safeway Corporation’s VP for Public Affairs : 925-467-3000

The Store in Questions is:

The Dominick’s/Safeway store in question is at 3025 E. New York St, Aurora, Ill. 60504.