strong woman vs naked little girl

EDIT: If You are searching for porn I hope your balls turn green, shrivel and fall off. Fuck off pervert.
if not, sorry for the interruption.

I go to a nude beach.  Often 3 or 4 times a week.  I’ve never been to a nude resort but I think that it might be fun.  there would be fewer creeps in a resort.

State beaches are public places.  That means the creepy guy with binoculars isn’t doing anything illegal.  That fully clothed man who is staring at me when I body-surf, isn’t doing anything illegal.    This is a much bigger problem for women than it is for men.   The big problem is there is nothing I can really do about it myself.  If I get up in some pervs face, that might just excite him.  I feel totally helpless.

So what do I do?  I need a man to help me.  Even better if it is multiple men.   I have found a group on the beach that is associated with The Naturist SocietyThe Blacks Beach Bares.  They really make me feel safe at the beach as a single woman.  We stake out an area and set up umbrellas, and when creepy people (read “creepy men”) show up the guys ask them to leave.  Let me tell you, a clothed gawker doesn’t like being approached by naked men.

Being protected makes me feel wonderful and safe and totally used by the patriarchy.   I’ve done a lot of introspection on the matter.  It pisses me off that I need to be saved.  when I was little and I played make believe my favorite character was “Zorra”.  I was like Zorro, but a girl.  I wanted to save the town from the corrupt and help the people.  I can’t stand needing to be saved, or I couldn’t until I got used to it.

I feel I can’t go up to them.  it would reinforce the behavior.  I mean yes I’m upset, but now they have breasts really close to them.   Here’s my view on it now:

The problem is one that exists within the patriarchy.  I’m currently living in the patriarchy.  A solution exists within the patriarchy.  I can either use this solution, or not go to the beach, or go to the beach and get stared at by creepy people.

I want what I want.  I want to go to the beach.  The guys that stand up for me are kind, and respectful.  Some are more entrenched in patriarchal views than others, but in general they are good people.  I think that just because someone is selfish (about giving up their privilege) doesn’t make them bad.  It doesn’t make them stellar, but I know there is a lot of privilege I don’t give up to make the world better either.

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  1. Funny that you should mention the complexities of living in a gendered and patriarchal world. Even when we do speak out for feminism and against misogyny and patriarchy, it seems that, because of this gendered world, it might seem as though we are being patriarchal in doing that. By speaking out against some creepy guy at the bar or a nude beach or whatever else, as a pro-feminist male, I feel as though I am taking the position of power, and using patriarchy and male-privilege against patriarchy and male-privilege.

    I think it’s at times like those that we’ve got to question ourselves: in speaking out, what are we really doing — “defending” a “helpless” woman and upholding patriarchy or merely speaking out as feminists and wearing our hearts on our sleeves?

  2. I think it really depends on the man speaking out. I know some of my friends are being “chivalrous” and like being the hero. these feelings are stereotypically rooted in the patriarchy when thought by a man. It definitely becomes a meta-issue. I like being the hero as well. If men and women are equal isn’t it great that my friends can have that feeling too?

    But historically they are allowed to have that feeling, so it takes on a different air. It is a privilege to have that feeling. Part of my bitter “it’s not fair!” side doesn’t want anyone to have what I can’t have, especially if it is because I’m “a woman” or “young” or any other superficial way of trivialising an individual.

    At the same time I realise it is not the guy’s fault that he has that privilege, and i appreciate being able to sunbathe where I want.

  3. I don’t think I would be able to go to a nude beach in order to need a team of bodyguards–for lack of a better term–but I see your point. Although, I wouldn’t try to edit my own life for them. What I would do, however, is write a letter to the state/town, etc. and construct a group of people willing to work towards an ordinance that makes deliberate “spying” on nude beaches illegal. I mean, its okay as long as the guys are using the beach, because you can’t infringe on their rights too much, but standing clothed without any intention of using the beach is wrong. You could even go as far as to say the men are loitering at the beach, and thus making it difficult for you to enjoy the beach.

  4. The problem is that it isn’t technically legal to begin with:

    No clothing optional beaches will be designated within the California State
    Park System at this time……Therefore, it shall be
    the policy of the Department that enforcement of nude sunbathing regulations
    within the State Park System shall be made only upon the complaint of a
    private citizen. Citations or arrests shall be made only after attempts
    are made to elicit voluntary compliance with the regulations. This policy
    should free up enforcement people to concentrate on other pressing duties

    The government is not going to help protect the rights it is merely tolerating. In general I dislike vigilantes.. but this group uses only peaceful measures to keep the creeps away.

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