I was thinking about this more as the controversy over IL is still looming. So I thought I’d share my experience with them.
First off, I’ve never had an abortion and I’ve never been pregnant.
But when I was in Highschool I sure didn’t want my mom to know I was considering having sex. (Even though, looking back, she probably assumed I was sexually active WAY before I was.)
I was on my parents health insurance so I didn’t want to go through a docter like that, but I was a teenager and didn’t have money to pay out of pocket to see a doctor about my questions. I was dating an older guy (26) , but was 18. So everything was legal, just darn awkward.
At the time I wasn’t even sure when I was going to “do it.” I was a virgin. I’d been dating “old” (as my highschool friends called him) for about 6 months. I loved him, so I was pretty sure I wanted to have sex with him, but was terribly afraid. (I’d never even used tampons. ) But I wanted to be prepared. My sister had an unwanted pregnancy (that turned into a beautiful and very wanted child) just the previous year. But I was going to go away to college. I couldn’t have a baby, I needed to go to college.
I went down to the clinic with my then boyfriend. I was so nervous. I anxiously asked if he would take an STD test and he agreed. I was so afraid and I’m still not sure of what. I wanted him to come with me to the back, but it was against policy. (a sound one in case some one is in an abusive relationship or something.) At the time that made me feel a little alone. Here I was to talk about SEX. Something that was mysterious and, well, not supposed to be talked about.
So I got on the pill, and they handed me lots of condoms.
It was because of them that I was never in a postition that I had to choose.
YAY for truth and knowledge.